4 Strategies To Help Leaders Figure Out What Matters Most and Share With Others

LaRae Quy
5 min readAug 31, 2023
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Most of us have a desire to close the gap between the person we are and the person we’d like to be. Ironically, few of us have a detailed plan for getting there. It’s much easier to muddle through the seasons of life with a vague understanding of what matters most to us and hope we like where we land.

That might be enough when things in our life and career are humming along with no challenges or surprises. But when confronted with a crisis, we need to move forward with clarity and specificity. Often, there isn’t time to stop and think about the role our values play in the decisions we make in the middle of a challenge.

But the reality is this: we get to choose the person we become, so it is critical that we take time to figure out what matters most. We are at our best when we consciously make decisions and choices based on a life of values, purpose, and meaning.

Here are 4 strategies to help leaders figure out what matters most and share it with others:

1. Reflect and share your story

To share your heart story, you need to reflect upon your life. Reflection can be uncomfortable because it requires us to look at the good, the bad, and the ugly in our lives. But they are part of who we are, and it’s important to analyze our choices and the path we’ve chosen for ourselves.

So what if life hasn’t been perfect and you’ve made a few blunders? What is important is what you learned from those experiences. Reflection is the path to self-awareness and understanding who you are and why you matter. It helps you understand how your values were formed.

Now is the opportunity to revisit those values and discover how they impact your wellbeing. Wellbeing captures the notion that we know what matters to us and live accordingly. Research has shown that values help us form an overall picture of the things that give our lives meaning, which in turn, produces wellbeing.

Reflection allows us to look at whether we’ve focused on the people, places, things, and experiences that align with our purpose.

When we share our stories as leaders, it helps to build deeper connections with our teams. If…



LaRae Quy

Former counterintelligence FBI agent | Mental Toughness Center | Consultant | Speaker | Author: Secrets of A Strong Mind, & Mental Toughness for Women Leaders