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There’s a lot of crap going on in the world and it’s tempting to throw tantrums and dissolve into a puddle of self-pity. It feels like the right thing to do because other people need to know how unfair life is, right? Like when we were in second grade and cried until we were red in the face because it got people’s attention, right?

Only you’re not in second grade anymore and it’s highly debatable whether your tantrums ever worked on anyone except your parents, and they’re the ones who trained you to use tantrums to get their attention in…

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It’s hard to make sense of the world right now; we’re in the middle of a pandemic, racial strife, and a political divide in America that looks more like Dante’s version of hell every day.

We’re bombarded with social media, camera phones, and a 24/7 news cycle. We’ve relied on our “feel-good at all cost” philosophy for so long that we no longer even know how to process the negative events that we’ve experienced in a helpful way.

Current events have left us humbled and uprooted from our routine. Nothing seems certain anymore. As the great philosopher Socrates would say…

It’s no secret that we’re faced with a growing mental health crisis right now and many of us are experiencing incredible amounts of pain and suffering.

A Kaiser Family Foundation poll reported that nearly half of Americans report the coronavirus crisis is harming their mental health. It’s predicted that “deaths of despair”, mostly through suicide and substance use, will add to increased mortality and reduced life expectancy of Americans during, and after, the COVID pandemic.

It should be no surprise that sales of self-help books, articles, and apps for our mobile devices have skyrocketed. …

As a female FBI agent, there weren’t always a lot of women in my office or in the building, for that matter. The closest thing to a mentor I had was my male training agent, who viewed me as more of a burden than an opportunity.

But it had been to my advantage to be raised on a cattle ranch in the middle of Wyoming. It was a tough environment-fast food was hitting a deer at 60 miles an hour. My grandmother wrote down ammo for her Christmas list. …

FBI agents who investigate knotty and complex cases-such as terrorism, cybercrime, and counterintelligence-need to develop a strong mind if they want to be successful.

Investigations like these don’t show up on an agent’s desk with directions on how to solve them. Instead, the investigation usually takes on more of a Hansel and Gretel approach-follow a string of crumbs that may, or may not, lead to another puny string of crumbs with lots of gaps from bird pickings along the way.

This sounds a bit like life itself-as the world has become more complex it’s become harder and harder to be…

Many of us know exactly what to do with the news reported in 2020 and we’re busy lining our bird cages with it so nature can take its course. We are slowly emerging from the Trump-Woke Progressives-Twitter trifecta that’s left us feeling depressed, anxious, and lonely.

Something is amiss these days, something primal and at the heart of being human. People are social animals-we’ve evolved to live in tribes and rely upon one another, both physically and emotionally as well.

The COVID pandemic brought health manuals the size of a Buick, sheltering-in-place restrictions, and prolonged periods of isolation. We’ve known…

When I was ten years old, I was riding my black quarter horse and helping my dad cut a horned bull from the cattle herd. The bull suddenly turned, horns first, and charged my horse. I grabbed the saddle horn; my horse pivoted on his back hooves and we got away unharmed. My first attempt was a failure, but I still needed to find a way to get the bull corralled.

Nothing grabs our attention like a failure. For me, as a ten-year-old kid, failure meant I was not successful in getting the bull into the corral. …

A lot of people seem to think the world is going to hell in a handbasket.

As if…this was the first time life was unfair.

As if…this is the first we’ve seen violence in the streets below us.

As if…this is the first time a pandemic has circled the globe.

But you see, for many people who have lived in a “Hey, look at me because I’m so cool” bubble, this IS the first time they haven’t been shielded from the unpleasantness of their world. They’ve found that this thing called life can be messy, unpredictable, and crazy!

Well, aren’t…

After months of fear, isolation, soaring unemployment, and uncertainty, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that the Census Bureau estimates one-third of Americans are anxious about the future.

Stress and uncertainty produce anxiety. Covid-19 has produced not only a health epidemic but also an anxiety epidemic:

➤Once we thought we were invincible; now we feel fatigue as we ponder our own future.

➤Once we sprang out of bed because we had things that needed to be done; now we crawl to our home office with a sense of resignation and indifference.

➤Once we planned vacations and conferences; now the most…

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I listened as one of my fellow FBI agents gave a briefing on the next steps he planned to take in his investigation. I thought he was headed in the wrong direction, and when he asked for our opinions, I shared my amazing insight with him and my colleagues.

I thought, “How can you all be such idiots that you can’t see what’s wrong with the agent’s analysis? Am I the only one who can see through the bullshit he’s throwing at us? How can I share my wisdom with the rest of them?”

Not that I expected a parting…

LaRae Quy

Former counterintelligence FBI agent | Mental Toughness Center | Consultant | Speaker | Author: Secrets of A Strong Mind, & Mental Toughness for Women Leaders

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